Personally my love for God is sometimes clouded by my desires. I tell God in prayer, through my motives and the words I speak to others, the body type I should be, the lifestyle I want to live, the friends I desire to maintain and the relationship I want to be in. I know the Bible well enough to call out verses like Matthew 7:7-8 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” As well as Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord; and he will give you the desires of your heart.” These are great promises from God but I am using them improperly and out of context. See what God is saying to us is make Him our first priority not what we think or feel we want. God says his timing and his plans are better than anything we could imagine. Ephesians 3:20 “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us…” And Psalm 130:5 “I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope.”
In order to achieve the best life that God has set aside for me, I must work on myself! God doesn’t ask us to change anyone other than ourselves. When there is a delay in the closeness of a friendship, a lack of courting options, strained familial communications the first action to take is self-evaluation. This evaluation is not in light of how I feel or my perspective of the situation. The evaluation should be measured against God’s word. If you are anything like me, this step hurts. The image of who I am, how I am behaving, or what I am entertaining in my life is ugly, selfish, and harmful to the testimony that God has given me. What do I do at such crossroads of self-clarification? I ask God for the wisdom to move forward. To be securely within his will again. James 1:5 says “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” The only place to go when I am lost or confused is to God. He is the only one already in tomorrow. He is the only one who knows everything, every possible outcome, all that I am and all that I am capable of. God is the only one who knows explicitly those times I fail to live up to my full potential. When I fail in this way I feel disappointed.
Confession time. I have this bad habit of thinking God doesn’t really love me when things don’t go my way, or I don’t get what I want. I forget just how God loves me. I remove my focus from God and let my heart run wild with visions, thoughts and desires. Instead I should repeat Zephaniah 3:17 “The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” I am not alone. I do not have the wrong body type. My relationship status is exactly as it should be for this moment. My friends are God appointed for my life, my time, my state of being and what I am destined to accomplish! Psalm 27:14 “Wait for the Lord, be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”
I know, I know this was supposed to be about relationships! It is about how relationships start with the desires of our hearts. If we can remove our focus from our most secret longings to what God says is best for us life becomes limitless. Romans 8:25 tells us: “But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” This is the point wait patiently praising God for the limitless, abundant, mind-blowing life He has in store for you! I will write another blog specifically about romantic relationships that honor God. Next week. No screwing around or changing the topic. I just go where God leads even in these posts! Love to you all! Have a fantastic Sunday. Be blessed. Look forward to meeting each of you someday.
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