As promised here we go! Romantic, intimate relationships, couplings whatever you want to call them. Everyone and I mean everyone (equipped by God to be) desires to be in the ideal couple. This is not a shock for any one who understands the Bible as God tells us we were created to be fully known and fully accepted. (Psalm 139:1 -4; 1 Corinthians 13:12 & 13.) That is the deepest longing within our hearts and souls. We have this unquenchable desire because the only person who can fulfill it is Jesus Christ. God placed this longing within us. We are programmed at our deepest level to seek him out. The issue is that we reject Christ and seek the fulfillment of our souls in our romantic feelings toward another person who is a sinner just like us. The problem with sinners is that they cannot love the way that Christ does. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a states the love of Jesus for us like this. “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.” (NIV) Indeed this is the wedding Scripture that you have heard so many times. Want to know why it is so popular? Each one of us craves to be loved like it describes. The same way that Christ loves us. Forgive me for what I am about to do. But it is paramount that you see, understand and apply it to your life. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Jesus’ love is patient, Jesus’ love is kind. Jesus’ love does not envy, Jesus’ love does not boast, Jesus’ love is not proud. Jesus’ love does not dishonor others, Jesus’ love is not self-seeking, Jesus’ love is not easily angered. Jesus’ love keeps no record of wrongs. Jesus’ love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Jesus’ love never fails.’ (The added Jesus, emphasis and bold are mine.)
We expect the person we are courting, dating, or interested in getting to know to love us with the bold, irrational, intensity that only Jesus Christ can. Which leads to the question so now what? Start by shifting your expectations from other people to Jesus Christ. We all know through our experiences that people let us down. Their inability to fulfill our desires does not mean they are a waste of time. They are simply trying to improve as we are. So when it comes to relationships, courtships, intimate connections practice Jesus’ command. “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” (Matthew 6:33.) For example if you know God has called you to be in a relationship. (1 Corinthians 7:1-2; 7.) If you are still unsure of your relational status pray about it. Ask God. He will reveal His plan for you. Hint, if you have the desire to be with another you were probably anointed for coupledom. Once your status is figured out, what next? You have this promise from God but no idea with whom or when it will happen. Isaac the son of Abraham was intended for marriage by his father according to Scripture here’s what happened. Abraham sent his servant to find a potential wife. The servant goes as requested and prays for God to reveal God’s choice for the master’s son. God answers the servant before his prayer is finished with Rebekah. (Genesis 24: 3; 12; 15-21.) “God knows your need before you even ask.” (Matthew 6:8.)
Success in romantic or intimate relationships or couples begins when you allow yourself to be completely fulfilled by Christ. If you are not you don’t have the right things to offer a potential partner. Secondly, allow God to reveal his choice of a partner to you. Don’t go out and try to make an intimate connection on your own. That will end in hurt feelings and disaster. Instead be open to the opportunities God provides to grow into the man or woman of God that your partner is looking for. Focus on God. Practice gratitude in your season of waiting. It will be well worth it! I heard this during a sermon years ago. “I don’t have a problem with God’s plan as much as his timetable.”
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